If you are in an abusive situation these steps may improve your safety –
- If you are in immediate danger call 999.
- Think of someone you can talk to about what is happening; perhaps a teacher or youth-worker; or ring one of the helplines in the Get Help section
- If you have a trusted friend or family member, can you agree a code word that will raise the alarm with them that you are in danger? A code word should be something you can say in front of your abuser that would not raise their suspicions but that the person you are calling will recognise as an unusual thing to say. For example if you are ringing a family member you could say “I forgot to tell you Uncle Joe rang last night”, assuming you do not have an Uncle Joe and that your abuser does not know this! Agree beforehand what the code word will be and what you want them to do if you use it.
- Make sure someone knows where you are.
- Carry a list of emergency numbers.
- Try to keep a mobile phone on you, charged and with credit.
- Think about escape routes and somewhere safe and secure you could go to, even if it is only for a few hours. Again make sure some people know where you are and that you are safe.
- Make a record of what is happening, if it is safe to do so, and keep it somewhere safe.