Are you worried that things are not right at home? It can be a nightmare living in house where one adult mistreats another. We say parent but it could be step parents, your parent’s boyfriend or girlfriend, or another adult relative.
This quiz can help you to understand if there is a problem. Answer the questions below, ticking Yes,No, Sometimes or Don’t Know.
1. Does one parent bully the other and have to be the boss?
Yes
No
Sometimes
Don’t Know
2. Is one parent scared of the other?
Yes
No
Sometimes
Don’t Know
3. Are you scared of one or both of your parents?
Yes
No
Sometimes
Don’t Know
4. Does one parent threaten the other or make them feel nervous?
Yes
No
Sometimes
Don’t Know
5. Does one parent put the other one down, call them names or always criticise them?
Yes
No
Sometimes
Don’t Know
6. Does one parent hit, punch, kick, push, throw things at or do other things to hurt the other?
Yes
No
Sometimes
Don’t Know
7. Does one parent have all the money and not let the other one have any?
Yes
No
Sometimes
Don’t Know
8. Is one parent jealous or possessive?
Yes
No
Sometimes
Don’t Know
9. Does one parent control what the other wears or what they do, for instance stopping them from seeing their friends and family?
Yes
No
Sometimes
Don’t Know
10. Does one parent make the other do things they do not want to do?
Yes
No
Sometimes
Don’t Know
If you’ve answered Yes, Sometimes or Don’t Know to any…
Any behaviour that makes someone else feel sad, scared or bad about themselves is not okay. It can be very difficult to know what to do in this situation. Take steps to keep safe and find someone to talk to about what is happening, a Helpline could help if you do not have a trusted adult to speak to. There is more information in our What you should know section.
If answered No to everything…
It’s good that these things are not a problem at home, if however you are still worried you could call a helpline, who can talk about your personal situation, in confidence, and give you advice on keeping safe. You can also get more information in our get help and What you should know sections.